Hot Cocoa on a Winter Night
When I think of comfort and intimacy I
think of sitting in from of a fire on a cold winter night, with a mug of hot
cocoa, don’t forget the marshmallows. Cuddled
under a blanket with someone you are intimate with.
There is so much to be said about
intimacy in marriage. I had no idea.
How do we develop intimacy in our
marriage?
True love is built on action, choices,
and commitment!
Most marriages start off wonderful
after a few years you see cracks and if not repaired can break a marriage
apart.
However, there are some of us that from
the start our marriage is flawed and cracked with band aids all over it. When your counselor says there is not much
hope you know somethings wrong.
The first 7 years or so of our marriage
was struggle after struggle. My husband
and I both had baggage that was brought into the marriage.
I remember arguing, distrust,
disrespect and accusations flying all over the place. And we are “Christians.”
Yes, counseling helps but there comes a
point you have to put into action what you have learned.
It does not happen overnight. I have made the conscious decision to commit
to my marriage and never use the “D” word.
There seemed to be no hope for intimacy
in our relationship.
Then we decided to work on
ourselves. To focus on what we needed to
change as individuals. Starting with
giving ourselves completely to God. We
surrendered our hearts and learned boundaries.
We started to take small steps and
allow God to heal us. Soon we realized
there are killers and healers of intimacy.
We have been married 12 years and we
are now learning what true intimacy looks like!
Announce it and declare over your
marriage that the killers of intimacy will now be healed!!!!
So then each of us shall give account of himself to
God. Romans 14:12
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive
us our sins and to cleans us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is a
progress; working together is success.
~ Henry Ford
Killers Healers
Anger Comfort
Lust/Porn Sexual
Purity
Un forgiveness Forgive
Pride Humility
Selfishness Sacrifice
Bitterness Kindness
Critical Praise-worthy
Workaholic Quality Time
Argumentative Compromising
Judging Accepting
Discouragement Encouragement
Doubt Trust
Dishonor Protect
Insensitive Compassion
Greed Generosity
Take for Granted Appreciation
Controlling Submissive
