Hot Cocoa on a Winter Night

Hot Cocoa on a Winter Night

When I think of comfort and intimacy I think of sitting in from of a fire on a cold winter night, with a mug of hot cocoa, don’t forget the marshmallows.  Cuddled under a blanket with someone you are intimate with.

There is so much to be said about intimacy in marriage.  I had no idea.

How do we develop intimacy in our marriage?  

True love is built on action, choices, and commitment!

Most marriages start off wonderful after a few years you see cracks and if not repaired can break a marriage apart.

However, there are some of us that from the start our marriage is flawed and cracked with band aids all over it.  When your counselor says there is not much hope you know somethings wrong.

The first 7 years or so of our marriage was struggle after struggle.  My husband and I both had baggage that was brought into the marriage. 

I remember arguing, distrust, disrespect and accusations flying all over the place.  And we are “Christians.”

Yes, counseling helps but there comes a point you have to put into action what you have learned.

It does not happen overnight.  I have made the conscious decision to commit to my marriage and never use the “D” word.

There seemed to be no hope for intimacy in our relationship.

Then we decided to work on ourselves.  To focus on what we needed to change as individuals.  Starting with giving ourselves completely to God.  We surrendered our hearts and learned boundaries.

We started to take small steps and allow God to heal us.  Soon we realized there are killers and healers of intimacy.

We have been married 12 years and we are now learning what true intimacy looks like! 

Announce it and declare over your marriage that the killers of intimacy will now be healed!!!!

So then each of us shall give account of himself to God.  Romans 14:12

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleans us from all unrighteousness.  1 John 1:9

Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is a progress; working together is success.

  ~ Henry Ford

Killers                      Healers                              

Anger                                                           Comfort

Lust/Porn                                                     Sexual Purity

Un forgiveness                                             Forgive

Pride                                                             Humility

Selfishness                                                   Sacrifice

Bitterness                                                     Kindness

Critical                                                         Praise-worthy                                  

Workaholic                                                  Quality Time                                      

Argumentative                                             Compromising

Judging                                                        Accepting

Discouragement                                           Encouragement

Doubt                                                           Trust

Dishonor                                                       Protect

Insensitive                                                    Compassion

Greed                                                            Generosity        

Take for Granted                                           Appreciation

Controlling                                                    Submissive